Making the Best of the Holidays after a Divorce
March 7, 2016
The holidays can be a difficult time after a divorce. As Florida Divorce Attorney and family member, I have seen the situation first hand. The loss you experienced when your marriage failed can be magnified at this time of year. The strain of trying to maintain the status quo can be overwhelming, particularly when there are children involved. It is a festive time that may contrast strongly with post-divorce loneliness and a sense of failure. Although there is no magic wand to dispel your blues, there are steps you can take to make the best of things and to get you through the holiday season:
- Start new holiday traditions: Your day-to-day life has probably changed dramatically since your divorce, and your annual family traditions may have changed as well. Now is the time to make new traditions — some with your children, and some just for yourself. Seek out holiday activities, or go on a special outing. Set a time for exchanging gifts with your family.
- Don’t look back: Lots of things can happen during the holidays that will remind you of the past, and the losses associated your former marriage. You may receive cards from married couples who socialized with you and your spouse during your marriage, or invitations to annual parties you attended with your spouse in the past. Although it may not be easy, push the blues away, take your attention off the past, and focus on creating a new and brighter future.
- Stick within a budget: Finances are often tight after a divorce, and there is no need to compete with your former spouse in giving gifts to your children. Gift giving will be less stressful if you stay strictly within your means, both during the season and later, when you get the bills.
- Take good care of yourself: Get enough sleep, proper nutrition, and plenty of exercise, and that will make it easier for you to cope. Most medical experts agree that nutrition can have a significant effect on your mental health. Exercise relieves stress and releases endorphins. Instead of drowning your blues with alcohol or food, you’re much better off investing some care and attention in yourself.
- Make a plan and a schedule: List out the things you need to do for the holidays and set a target date for each item on your list. This method will help you feel more in control of your life and less stressed out by the extra holiday activities and demands.
- Schedule a time for rest and relaxation: The holidays can be hectic, even under normal circumstances. Give yourself a break and take some time for R&R. Not only do you deserve it, but you need it when you are coping with a stressful first post-divorce holiday season.
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